Ugh. International Kissing Day… bah humbug! You crazy kids get offa my lawn with your kissing each other and whatnot.
Kidding! Back before I figured out my sexual orientation, I hated seeing anything to do with romance, to be honest. I’ve never truly desired kissing or sex, and I felt so alone for feeling that way. Thankfully, I got all my love shizz figured out these days!
Did you know? Sexual and romantic attraction are two different things in our brains! They usually align together for most humans, but not always. I’m have no desire for kissing or sex with any gender (asexual), but I do experience the other romantic feelings for rare people of any gender I bond with on a deep emotional level (demiromantic).
I have realized I do want a life partner, but haven’t had very much luck in that love area. The two people I’ve developed my true demiromantic feelings for didn’t return that love, and both chose other people to have a romantic relationship with over me (ow, my poor fragile self-worth). The people who have been attracted to me… well, sadly I felt nothing for them.
Romance is not something to be jealous of, silly brain. I’ve never had a romantic partner and there’s absolutely no rush or need to have one. I’d much rather be alone forever than trapped with someone I don’t truly love and can’t be myself around. Stop being so pushy on single people, society.
Enough about my lack of love life! The awesome Heather over at Just Geeking By started a series of blogging prompts called Seriously Geeky Sundays. This week is all about that romance thing. Definitely check out Heather’s creative prompts and take part in the fun if you want! I’m absolutely loving her questions so far.
So… without anymore intro babbling from me, here are my answers to Just Geeking By’s lovey questions for this week. Thank you, Heather!
Who is your favourite couple?
Link and Zelda from the Legend of Zelda video game series. These two lovers find each other across multiple lifetimes and work together to bring down evil every single time. If that’s not true love meant to be, I don’t know what is.
What is your favourite romantic scene?
Such an unconventional and beautiful romance… Prisoner and prison psychologist fall hard for each other in a TV series called Wentworth. Yep. The romance between Franky Doyle and Bridget Westfall is one of my all-time favourite love pairings. If I can feel the emotional bond between characters, it makes it easier for me to tolerate the sexy time scenes.
Dancing around spoilers, my favourite scenes are when Franky finds herself almost dying and Bridget risks everything to go rescue her escaped girlfriend. True love is so beautiful!
What is the perfect fictional place for a romantic date?
The Banquet of the Lord, a fancy restaurant in the video game Lightning Returns. I absolutely love the quest here! Lightning finds a poor lonely guy and grants him a pity dinner date before the end of the world. Proof the mighty Savior of Souls will do absolutely anything to save people!
Some romantic scenes are adorable, and then some are just plain awkward. What’s the most awkward scene you can recall?
Every romantic scene in every medium ever when people suddenly jump in bed together and start going at it, for no plot reasons whatsoever. It just makes me so uncomfortable and I don’t really wanna see it.
Power to you if you like this! I’m not demanding things change or anything, just stating how I personally feel about seeing this random sex scene stuff. Just… awkward.
What is your favourite wedding scene?
Another one of my favourite fictional couples is Worf and Jadzia Dax from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine. If I ever get married, I want a bat’leth for the ceremony. Rawr!!
Pick a fandom and play kiss/marry/avoid!
I’m taking the liberty of switching this game up a bit, if no one minds… I’m replacing “kiss” with “hug”. The huggy true friend zone is where it’s at for me! 😍
The fandom I’m choosing is the original Mass Effect game companion character cast. BioWare’s Dragon Age and Mass Effect games deserve some serious credit for helping me figure out my orientation, by the way.
Let’s get hugging, marrying, and avoiding!
Kaidan Alenko – Avoid. I know it was just your programming dude, but I was not at all impressed when I accidentally triggered the romance option with you. When my Shepard said “No” to the sex scene and you said “Fine, but don’t keep me waiting much longer”… well, wait forever, asshole.
Ashley Williams – Hug. Yeah. She’s a little racist towards other species at first, but her character evolves past that if a kindhearted Shepard teaches her that aliens are allies. Learned hidden biases take work to unlearn, and don’t necessarily make someone a bad person if they need help to overcome them. She seems like a badass big sister and overall awesome fighter.
Garrus Vakarian – Hug. The sarcasm, sweet sniping skillz, and red tape intolerance…. I just love this guy!
Urdnot Wrex – Hug. Krogan smash things real good! This guy is an angry treasure.
Tali’zorah – Hug. I can’t imagine living in a quarantine suit for your whole life. Hm. Those might help with the current IRL pandemic situation. But yeah, Tali is brilliant with a kind soul. Of course I’d love to hug her!
Liara T’Soni – Marry. By declining all the official romance options with Liara on my first Mass Effect playthrough, I accidentally stumbled upon my ideal life partnership! No kissing or sex… only strong emotional bonding and deep conversations about the nature of everything. Huge bonus for her species’ ability to reproduce without the need for any physical contact! Oh, baby… *fans self*
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